Asking someone to go to therapy will, more often than not, yield an outcome wherein the involved would go on full force defensive mode, immediately denying that there’s something wrong with his or her current disposition. There is a reason a person would vehemently renounce any suggestion that would lead to getting an appointment with a therapist. And that can be referred to as therapy anxieties.
Well, it’s true. Therapists are quite scary. They will open you up and eat your soul. Why in the world would you still want to go and see one? First, that’s not what therapists do. Second, because something’s wrong and it needs fixing.
Maybe the real reason for declining a session with a therapist is because you are just terrified of exposing parts of yourself that you have concealed from everybody else. Or maybe you don’t want to find out that there’s something faulty within you. Either way, you feel anxious. You’d instead be swallowed whole by the ground than stepping into a therapist’s office.
Whatever your reason is for not going into therapy, there are effective ways of overcoming them. Answering the question, “Why don’t you want to see a therapist?” here are some therapy anxieties that people have repeatedly uttered.
- There is nothing to talk about.
This makes absolute sense. If you figured that there’s nothing wrong with you, going to a therapist would be a waste of resources. But think about it, people don’t know themselves entirely. You have characteristics and attitudes that you are unaware of that other people can see and experience.
Therapy is created to explore bits and pieces about your behavior and feelings so that it can correctly pinpoint sensitive issues in your life that needs to be tackled. Besides, there are a vast library of topics to talk about starting with your family, work, friends, hopes, and dreams. Certainly, there is something to talk about in those areas.
- People might know
Therapists are sworn to secrecy. Breaking confidentiality has consequences and is included in their code of ethics. However, there is a clause or a subtext citing an exemption to that rule. Disclosure of information can be done if:
- The client is mentally ill and is at risk of hurting oneself or others
- The court mandated it for legal purposes
Otherwise, anything that you have disclosed to your therapist is safe and sound.
- I might be seen as weak.
You are not weak; however, your mind is. Seeking for help is a sign of strength and maturity. Self-awareness, as evidenced by delving further into painful feelings and experiencing, is the most important step in finding a way to work out your issues.
- People might think I’m crazy.
While both deal with how the mind works, there is a difference between a therapist and a psychologist. And both will tell you that seeking help about something that’s been emotionally and mentally bothering you is not an indicator of craziness. When the mind is sick, it will not function the way it should be. Therapy works in a way that it addresses your unrest by providing different motivational strategies.
Getting better requires a great deal of courage and confidence. Separating yourself from these anxieties about therapy is not just beneficial to you but also to the people around you.